Happiness is a Journey, not a Destination

Today, is a day of deep reflection. I am excited and blessed to be at the point I am in my life but something is yearning for more. When I look at my recent accomplishments, I feel one would chuckle a disbelief as how I could feel this way. Well, let me tell you it not so much acquiring the things that we most desire, but rather once we obtain those things we want it no longer seems as appealing as it did when we didn’t have it.

I don’t expect to have the all the answer at one time, and I am sure I should be enjoying the “freed up” schedule. However, I am not. I am looking to dive right back into the comfortable & familiar, as much as I wanted to stray away from it. So, I ask myself, what am I afraid of? What am I scared of?

I guess, one would think the unknown? But, the unknown looks so adventurous and mysterious why wouldn’t I want this path? Why wouldn’t I want a clear schedule and a do what the f! I want, at any giving time? No textbooks, no nagging, no stress just a careless stress free living for a year or so?

These questions I have often pondered since I knew I was going to have a clear schedule eventually. And as anyone imagine it was filled with beach ,trips and hanging out gazing at the stars.

 A previous professor once said, “that you may feel a sense of emptiness, once you realize that you are no longer striving for purpose, you tend to  have a moment of what now? When you realize that the intended purpose was not the real purpose at all, yet you made it your center of reality. “

So, I say to the unknown or unfamiliar, as much as I want to run back and hide. I want to embrace this new chapter of my life. They say, you cant read the same book expecting a different ending..

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Share your thoughts!

Xo,

CC

 

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A Toast To the New Year!

Hello and Happy Saturday!

This is our last Saturday of 2017!

I hope that there has been new intentions set for 2018! Make them manageable, meaningful and attainable! Goals are great but don’t get so caught up in the intentions/goals that you forget why you started!

I hope that this new year brings great opportunities, challenges and change! Change is good, change is needed and change is inevitable so embrace it!

Be safe, Be happy, be you!

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I will see you next year!

Xo,

CC

How Should You Handle Your Boss?

Happy Wednesday Everyone!

Hope you are making through your week like a rock star! Well if not, here is a little #WednesdayWisdom for you to get through! I have been struggling with the behavior of my boss over the last recent weeks, and at times I wonder why I am still there! I have never had to think of “how am I going to handle my boss today!?” I mean, I think that sh!t is crazy, it is pretty cut and dry we either like them or we don’t, either ignore them or work with them but handle them? I am sure I am not the only one in the situation and I have a few pointers that may help you as this has helped me!

  1. Passing the buck – this can relate to passing on work that upper management has request from them specifically or any other task –  here is why this okay, as they may seem to think that they are flying high delegating task, but this can have a huge benefit for you as you are learning and developing a new skill set. I am sure we all have to much on our plates already, but eventually their rein will falter and you will have the experience to nestly on in.
  2. Sick Card – Yes, we all need a break every once and while from work — but when you start to abuse the power it becomes noticeable to your team and upper management. Again, this is good for you, as typically if your under your boss you are next in the chain of command. Most of the tasks that he or she is responsible for will become your responsibility and you do the reports/tasks correctly you are able to use this as a stepping stone if you are interested in moving up within the company.
  3. Stay Positive – As hard as this maybe, you must stay positive and speak your truths professionally when you need to. This is the best tip that I can offer, as we sometimes miss the value of being pushed on the spot. What came of it? You learned a new thing or two, and you may get the opportunity for better things! Not all situations are permanent so take the challenges as they come and use them to your advantage!

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I know when we are in the situation at the time it is harder to see the bigger picture, our minds get caught up in why am I doing this? I shouldn’t be doing this and so on an so forth. But, we need to take the situations that we are faced daily and find the brighter side, opportunity or experience!

Xo,

CC

Behind The Scenes of Fear: #Motivation Monday

Happy Monday! As always hope you enjoyed your weekend!

Monday’s motivation is “Never Let Your Fear, Decide Your Fate”.

Never let the position you are currently in, become a state of safety. Always push to make your own opportunities. Just because someone said no to an idea, does not mean that it is a bad idea, just may need to be refined.

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This is true with fear. Fear is an emotion that sometimes makes us scared to move forward. In this state we are paralyzed and often hinder our own growth. Fear is good, fear says you are about to embark on a new journey. It might be bumpy, might be smooth but it will eventually be alright!

As I am nearing the completion of my second degree and yoga license. I have an immense sense of fear coming over me, as I do not know where this next chapter will take me. I do know that in the old chapter there are somethings/people who cannot come on this new journey. As scary as this may be for some people, and even me; I do know it is something that has to happen in order for me to be the best version of myself.

So to close, push the boundaries, be afraid and have fear. But, control yourself and take only what you need from it!

Xo,

CC

3 Things You Miss When Forcing Life

Happy Friday! 🙌🏾

We made it! Through the endless phone calls, emails and disturbances! Thank goodness! Well, this week I have been thinking about my own personal “disturbances” and how I try oh so hard to fix them!

Then I thought, well maybe that is reason the same ones keep popping up!

Right? maybe there just not meant to be fixed, and maybe just maybe I am forcing something that should just be let go of?

I talked a little bit, about career and moving forward and needing the courage to do so earlier this week. Well, this here; is part two, in addition to having courage to forge through this life, we also need to know when were forcing it and having the courage to live and let live.

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When we are forcing things, we often overlook the meaningful things as we are trying to find signs to things we want “fixed”. We miss opportunities all the time this way! If we cannot appreciate the little things how are we EVER going to appreciate the BIGGER things?

Which leads me to the next thing, it takes waaay longer to get to where were are trying to go, as we are overlooking everything trying to find this ONE miniscule thing!

Side note:Have you ever wanted something so badly, then when you finally got it. You were like ugh, well this sucks. I am sure we have all been there and this is what a missed opportunity feels like. We get so blindsided on having a cookie cutter idea that we miss how fun (in some cases) the bumps and bruises can be!End side note.

Which leads me to my final thought, if you are forcing life, situations, work whatever. You are not trusting that things will work themselves out the way it was intended. You are not trusting you, the outcome or divine. This takes courage to do so, but you have to trust that it will.

So lets recap:You miss opportunities by forcing or by having blinders on to the one and only outcome in your head.

  1. It takes way longer to achieve the desired goal (and you may end up changing your mind on it)
  2. Trusting yourself/Divine being/ God

Just relax, breathe and take the steps to achieve your goals but don’t get so hung up on the little things that you miss an opportunity that is even better!  Half the fun is getting there, you meet people, learn new things and open your mind to different avenues! Never settle for just one thing!

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Xo,

CC ✌🏾

Confessions of A Career Changer

Happy Hump Day! 🐫

Today, is confessions of a career changer! Its a relief to say that about myself. Yet, I feel like I am not alone. I know most of you can relate to this; you get bored easily, your interest in career avenues change, you seek new information/ways of doing things as the redundant may make you crazy! Does this sound like you?

Some may say, well how do you get ahead by doing that? Or what about job security, 401K all the adult things that most people constantly worry about. Well, there is no need to worry about these things as your 401k can be rolled over into your new company. Which this can actually be a benefit as some companies match 100% in your first year! You get a grace period to transfer your health insurance over or keep it at a premium. Which again, isn’t that bad (as long as you have another gig lined up)!

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Now, this is not to encourage you to quit your job, but rather think about if the career your are in is for you! Now, I have been with my company for almost three years. I’ve managed to get promoted several times and transfer closer to home. However, I have been in my most recent position for a year now, and it has become quite redundant and stressful. I enjoy the M-F and the paid holidays as the next person. But, there is no work/life balance.

This is an integral component as most people have families, side hustles and are furthering their education.

So, how do we get there?

We need to ask ourselves, what are we looking for in our careers? What are we looking to do that will make it easier for us? What is important to us? What can we spend 8 hours a day doing?

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We all can’t be millionaire entrepreneurs from a brilliant idea that we have. But, we can try to find something that we love doing. We will not succeed from the beginning. There will be many failures before success but we must have the courage to at least begin.

Xo,

CC ✌🏾

The One Thing YOU Need to Change To Move Forward

Happy Monday Everyone! I hope you all enjoyed your weekend!

Sundays are a time for me to reflect, I like to practice my yoga sequence, read a few sutras and then free write about my practice and the sutra that was divinely chosen. As I take in the wondrous insight of my readings, I realize the one thing we ALL need but yet some of as lack is courage.

Courage allows us to do, see, say and forge through the difficult, happy and the soul crushing events of life. We have to move forward with courage when we want to end a relation, quit a job, or even move across country!  It allows us to face these moments in life that we are not sure of the outcome whether it is good or bad. We must trust in the moment, believe in the journey and move forward.

This resonated in me over the weekend, as we sometimes struggle to make a leap or change a direction that we do not fully know if there is security ahead or if it is just going to engulf in a heaping tower of flames.  We can tell ourselves it will be okay, but we will never really know unless we move forward with courage and know that even though it may seem uncertain now, that it will work out the way it should.

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If we continue to mask the fire that is burning inside, eventually we will mask our true selves and end up in a bad place. It takes courage to move forward with the fire that is within you. It takes courage to know that yes, this feels uncertain but it feels right. It takes courage to walk up to your boss and tell him/her how things really are (professionally).

But, this is your personal truth, and your truths is what gets rid of  the weight that we often carry around for no reason.

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We create most of the drama in our lives by hiding our truths. We cause fear, anxiety and anger for wanting to protect the people we care about and not hurt their feelings. But, this does not do us any good, this is were resentment and discord happens. Rather than just saying or doing what you need to do or say, you are masking these emotions causing blockage and pain (either mentally, physically or emotionally).

Remember it is not what you say but how you say it. Speak your truths, move forward with courage and let that sh!t go!

 

Xo,

CC

How Do You Spend the First Hour At Work?

Happy Hump Day!

I am half way through my work week, and I can’t help to wonder how I get through it with the endless emails, the never-ending  phone calls and the constant disruptions! I feel I need a drink just from the first sentence! Welp, I am here to say, it is how you spend the first hour of your day at work is what makes it either good, bad or ugly!

Who wants to have a bad or ugly day at work? I think no one, well let me tell you how to get yourself organized enough to power through any day no matter the time of week!

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  1. Make sure you are on time, not just on Mondays but every other day of the week! The most important is Monday, as it is when the emails are usually starting to poor in from those who check there email earlier than 9 AM. And when your there to catch them, you will find it easier to map out your day and with the latter/tea/coffee already in hand. Limits the waste of time by the Keurig in the office.
  2. Have a planner, notebook or your favorite stationary to map out your day. The idea of having something nice you like to write in, makes it easier to keep track of the tasks at hand. The objective to writing things down, is that you have an general idea of what your trying to accomplish in the 8 hours that you are there. This does not necessarily mean that you will get in done in the order your wrote it but it will help in keeping you on track on the most important.
  3. Check your email for what may take the most time, but you can get a jump on it by the time the disturbances, phones and other emails start. You will have a clear idea of what is expected on the project and if you do get interrupted you will find it easier to go back to the task as you have the core down.
  4. Have a drawer full of healthy snacks that you can grab at any time if you are unable to take a break. This will keep you on track with your other goals and fight off any cravings you may have.
  5. Take a moment to chit-chat with colleagues. This will see where everyone is and what they plan to get out of the day. It makes for an easier day for the team when everyone is on the same page!

Hopefully, these tips and tricks will help you have an easier start to the day!

Which one will you start to incorporate in your day?

 

Xo,